Yikes!  Ummm.  There are so many directions I could go with this.

If someone says that they are going to hurt you, believe them.  Run away.  It is a terrible excuse for bad behavior and it should not be tolerated or accepted.  The chances of “fixing” someone like that is beyond rare.  So, like I said, run away.

And that is officially the first time I have written any dating advice.